Friday, February 18, 2011

I Need Girlfriends!

Had a chat with a colleague 3 yrs younger than me.. She's fun-loving, simple-minded and loves to group with her girlfriends many evenings a week to have her massage & manicure sessions. She has no plans for the future nor did she think so far. All she want is to be the best in her job during working hours, and play & totally unwind after working hours..

Out having fun










Sounds fun. Sounds nice. Not the massage & manicure sessions, but the gathering with her girlfriends. I wish I have ever-ready pals that I can call upon anytime, and share everything under the sun. But due to diverse interests, I don't have friends that share same interests with me, or that I can relate to/ count upon. Casual friends don't count. I need those that I can simply dial her number at 2am & pour out my troubles.. I want at least 2 others.. As I go through names & faces in my mind, some qualify, but they cant be put together. Some got married and cant afford to give me the attention/ time I need.. But..

Grooming & Sharing together












All is not lost! I came across a blog that talks about how she finally got her close group of girlfriends after she had children.. So I firmly believe that in time, I will have my girlfriends in my life. I must settle down 1st. Being too fluttery with what I like is not going to get me anywhere.

Dining together once a month..

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Why am I INTP?


I was pondering over the pros & cons of being an introvert and concluded that an extrovert would probably fare better in life. I prefer an 'E'. I'll have more friends this way. I'll get to learn new things and be exposed to much more instead of being cooped up in my own mind. This I don't like. The cooping up, and the lag time taken to react to a group conversation/ express an opinion.

Then, I came across this front cover:



I haven't read the book but I get the message. But then, it led me to think. Why am I an introvert? I don't think it's solely in the genes. It's due to environment, influences and exposure. So.. this means I can convert into an extrovert if I want to push myself along that direction?

I decided that I'll learn to change based on my earlier conclusion that I'll get to learn more by being with others. If I ever take a personality test again, I hope I get a ENTP or something similar. I must develop a liking to conversing with others, and not fear awkward silences/ lack of topic to discuss. I must read more to even manage a monologue if necessary. That's the extra step I need to take to convert to an 'E'. It's a chore, yes. But I'll manage. Let's see. :)

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

INTP Relationships


Well, it is Valentine's Day yesterday & I spent it with my sister... so, what kinda guy am I supposed to look for? I was confused until the passage below lights up a certain part in me. Yeah, it's true. I just like intelligent guys. :)

Intelligent Guy

"INTPs live rich worlds inside their minds, which are full of imagination and excitement. Consequently, they sometimes find the external world pales in comparison. This may result in a lack of motivation to form and maintain relationships. INTPs are not likely to have a very large circle of significant relationships in their lives. They're much more likely to have a few very close relationships, which they hold in great esteem and with great affection.


Since the INTP's primary focus and attention is turned inwards, aimed towards seeking clarity from abstract ideas, they are not naturally tuned into others' emotional feelings and needs. They tend to be difficult to get to know well, and hold back parts of themselves until the other person has proven themselves "worthy" of hearing the INTP's thoughts. Holding Knowledge and Brain Power above all else in importance, the INTP will choose to be around people who they consider to be intelligent. Once the INTP has committed themself to a relationship, they tend to be very faithful and loyal, and form affectionate attachments which are pure and straight-forward. The INTP has no interest or understanding of gameplaying with regards to relationships. However, if something happens which the INTP considers irreconciliable, they will leave the relationship and not look back."

Oh, and this criteria comes in 2nd. First & foremost, he must be a Christian. Not a charismatic Christian. Preferably one who reads the bible & knows God intimately. :)

Nb: I don't consider myself smart. There's nothing intimidating abt me. I live a simple life & have simple requests. Really.

Things I like - My 10 year plan~

These are the activites I like, & hope to accomplish at some point in time...

Dancer (Lyrical Jazz)

              
Horseback Riding
 
    
Artist (Landscape, Portrait, Comic)

Pianist (Church, Classical, Jazz)


Been thinking about doing these for the longest time! Now that I've finally graduated, I'll just have to focus on earning enough to finance these lessons... But then again, maybe I should just go for MBA before starting on these.. hmm.. Just another 2 years of studies.. should be alright.. We'll see.

The Thinker


Female Thinker~
Quite close... I'll find the time to dissect this passage to see how it fits the way I am.. :)

INTPs live in the world of theoretical possibilities. They see everything in terms of how it could be improved, or what it could be turned into. They live primarily inside their own minds, having the ability to analyze difficult problems, identify patterns, and come up with logical explanations. They seek clarity in everything, and are therefore driven to build knowledge. They are the "absent-minded professors", who highly value intelligence and the ability to apply logic to theories to find solutions. They typically are so strongly driven to turn problems into logical explanations, that they live much of their lives within their own heads, and may not place as much importance or value on the external world. Their natural drive to turn theories into concrete understanding may turn into a feeling of personal responsibility to solve theoretical problems, and help society move towards a higher understanding.
 
INTPs value knowledge above all else. Their minds are constantly working to generate new theories, or to prove or disprove existing theories. They approach problems and theories with enthusiasm and skepticism, ignoring existing rules and opinions and defining their own approach to the resolution. They seek patterns and logical explanations for anything that interests them. They're usually extremely bright, and able to be objectively critical in their analysis. They love new ideas, and become very excited over abstractions and theories. They love to discuss these concepts with others. They may seem "dreamy" and distant to others, because they spend a lot of time inside their minds musing over theories. They hate to work on routine things - they would much prefer to build complex theoretical solutions, and leave the implementation of the system to others. They are intensely interested in theory, and will put forth tremendous amounts of time and energy into finding a solution to a problem with has piqued their interest.
 
INTPs do not like to lead or control people. They're very tolerant and flexible in most situations, unless one of their firmly held beliefs has been violated or challenged, in which case they may take a very rigid stance. The INTP is likely to be very shy when it comes to meeting new people. On the other hand, the INTP is very self-confident and gregarious around people they know well, or when discussing theories which they fully understand.
The INTP has no understanding or value for decisions made on the basis of personal subjectivity or feelings. They strive constantly to achieve logical conclusions to problems, and don't understand the importance or relevance of applying subjective emotional considerations to decisions. For this reason, INTPs are usually not in-tune with how people are feeling, and are not naturally well-equiped to meet the emotional needs of others.
 
The INTP may have a problem with self-aggrandizement and social rebellion, which will interfere with their creative potential. Since their Feeling side is their least developed trait, the INTP may have difficulty giving the warmth and support that is sometimes necessary in intimate relationships. If the INTP doesn't realize the value of attending to other people's feelings, she may become overly critical and sarcastic with others. If the INTP is not able to find a place for themself which supports the use of their strongest abilities, they may become generally negative and cynical. If the INTP has not developed their Sensing side sufficiently, they may become unaware of their environment, and exhibit weakness in performing maintenance-type tasks, such as bill-paying and dressing appropriately.
 
For the INTP, it is extremely important that ideas and facts are expressed correctly and succinctly. They are likely to express themselves in what they believe to be absolute truths. Sometimes, their well thought-out understanding of an idea is not easily understandable by others, but the INTP is not naturally likely to tailor the truth so as to explain it in an understandable way to others. The INTP may be prone to abandoning a project once they have figured it out, moving on to the next thing. It's important that the INTP place importance on expressing their developed theories in understandable ways. In the end, an amazing discovery means nothing if you are the only person who understands it.
 
The INTP is usually very independent, unconventional, and original. They are not likely to place much value on traditional goals such as popularity and security. They usually have complex characters, and may tend to be restless and temperamental. They are strongly ingenious, and have unconventional thought patterns which allows them to analyze ideas in new ways. Consequently, a lot of scientific breakthroughs in the world have been made by the INTP.
 
The INTP is at her best when she can work on her theories independently. When given an environment which supports her creative genius and possible eccentricity, the INTP can accomplish truly remarkable things. These are the pioneers of new thoughts in our society.